Friday, May 6, 2011
Burning the midnight oil...
I can't believe it... At midnight I was sleeping blissfully expecting to sleep 8 hours because I went to bed early and still be able to get up early to get my day started with one hour of personal development and one hour walk. It was not to be. My husband arrived home sometime before midnight and decided to work on his computer just a couple of feet from where I peacefully slept knowing how light a sleeper I am. Does that make sense? Why would he interrupt my sleep knowing that that morning I had been awakened and had slept very little. I sleep so poorly in general being a woman in her formative years and after losing my son 8 months ago, I have even more trouble sleeping. Today was one of those days. After he woke me up, I began to read a book and at about 1:30am, he was done and so we went to sleep. Now my mind is racing and I begin to think about my son and his accident and now I'm in tears and going into full blown panic. The problem with that is that my granddaughter is sleeping next to me and unlike my husband, I don't want to wake her up so now I exit the room and find something to do. First, I fold the sheets that my daughter washed that evening before and then I go on Facebook to see who is still awake. A friend mentions she is going to blog and then recommends that if I'm going to be up, I should write a blog. Now here it is... MY BLOG. This is my FIRST BLOG. I will write an article a week about random thoughts that might be of value. Today's message is... set ground rules for what can and can't happen in your bedroom or do like a friend of mine suggests, get separate bedrooms. Now that my son's bedroom is empty, that might be an option so my husband better watch out. Let me know what you would do if you were in my sheets!!! Blessings, NancY
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Congratulations! on your first blog!
ReplyDeleteThank you Michael.
ReplyDeleteSo glad to see you here. Many years ago I banished computers from our room - now if I could just get the TV out.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your first blog. Move the computer to the other one. You deserve to have a good night's sleep. Especially so you can rejuvenate and dream!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry about your interrupted rest, but I'm glad you've ventured into the world of blogging with your first post and shared that fact at Facebook to bring us here. I look forward to reading what comes next as you figure things out. For myself, I concur with Sharon because I find computers and televisions in the bedroom do tend to interrupt sleep. I'm doing my best to remember something I read recently about the importance of clear 'boundaries' in the context of taking care of ourselves. I know from personal experience that 'asking for what I need' is challenging and requires courage and compassion (for myself and others) especially when 'connections' are important to me. Ah ... methinks it might have been Brene Brown in THE GIFTS OF IMPERFECTION. What I realize now (that I didn't always know) is that when I don't have 'clear boundaries' it's easy for me to feel mistreated, used, and misunderstood ... and those feelings can get in the way of my connections with others especially when I behave in 'reactive' ways by withdrawing or lashing out, so I'm practicing (imperfectly) the art of asking for what I need and setting clear boundaries ... learning as I go.
ReplyDeleteIt took a while however last year 2014, we moved the computer out of the bedroom and although the tv is still there, it rarely gets used. I'm learning how to set clear boundaries. I realize I'm not very good at that either Virginia. Thank you all and have a fabulous day.
ReplyDeleteIt took a while however last year 2014, we moved the computer out of the bedroom and although the tv is still there, it rarely gets used. I'm learning how to set clear boundaries. I realize I'm not very good at that either Virginia. Thank you all and have a fabulous day.
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